So my boyfriend is in MCT as we speak then he goes to Florida for almost 9 months. We have known each other for two years ad I knew him before he chose the uniform and we started dating before he left for basic. We both want and know it will work but there are people in my family that think its not healthy to date someone in the military, and I love him and want to follow my heart and spend the rest of my life with him. In your opinion, what age is to young for military marriage? And how should I handle my family? 

Military Girlfriend Response:

I don’t think that there is a certain age, but I always advice against getting married right out of training, especially if it is to prove something.

My guy and I said that we wouldn’t get engaged until at least one year after he was done with all of his training. People change while they are gone and too many people rush into marriage after training. This is the number one cause of divorce in the military. You two are going to be together forever, so why rush things?

As far as the family thing goes, I have found that the best way to handle people who don’t think you tow are going to last is to just give it time. The longer the two of you are together the more you will prove to them that that is the way its going to be. Its the best way I’ve found so far.

Military Girlfriend Out.

I recently began a guy that’s been in the marines for about a year now. We were previously friends before he joined the service but it is so difficult to build a relationship while he’s gone. I never had the time to spend with him before he left. We’ve been together now for about 7 months and he just began working on the fleet. When he left this time a lot of things changed. We haven’t been able to talk as often which I understand because he is busy with work and some family that he has out there. But I just don’t feel that he cares as much about me now. The last times he left he made it so easy on me by making me feel so important, now I feel like I’m his last priority after work, family, gym time, and deployment. Is this just me? Or is there something I can do to get more out of this relationship? 

Military Girlfriend Response:

Honestly I think that he might just be really tired after all the stuff he goes through in a day.  He has a lot going on, and I’m sure that it’s not that he doesn’t want to talk to you, but he may just be way too tired to be able to.

If it were me I would probably tell him how I am feeling and maybe make a plan to have a special day where you guys talk to each other for even an hour just to feel closer. I really think that you should talk to him about it because if he knows how you are feeling he will be able to fix it, as well as tell you exactly why he is doing that.

Military Girlfriend Out.

Hi,

So. My boyfriend of 7 months is commissioning as a 2nd Lt. this Friday, and will head to IBOLC for 16 weeks, then on to Ranger school. Any advice on adjusting to these changes? I tried long distance with my high school sweetheart my first year of college, but I didn’t adjust well, because I didn’t ask for advice. 

Thanks so much!

Military Girlfriend Response:

The biggest thing for me was that we have to get used to the idea of being alone. The sooner you are able to handle that the easier it will be. Also if you get down while he is gone just remember that what he is doing is going to further his career as well as make things easier for the two of you in the future.

If there is something that you are worried might happen tell him and work it out before he leaves. That way if something happens you will have already talked about it rationally.

Military Girlfriend Out.

My boyfriend is going to Offutt AFB in Omaha Nebraska and he asked me to go with him. Do you know if he is able to live off base without being married?

Military Girlfriend Response:

He will not be able to live off base unless he is married. My cousin is in the Air Force and he was engaged to his now wife and he was only able to be off base on the weekends until they were married.

Military Girlfriend Out.

I have a month left! One more month to go for boot camp! The graduation is May 31!! I’m SO excited!!! Thank you so much for doing this and having this blog. Thank you for staying on top of the blog and posting every day new advice and support.With out you, this wait would have me so antsy and ignorant to this lifestyle. Thank you so much. You’re amazing and keep doing what you’ve been doing. 
Response from military girlfriend:
Thank you for your support and I’m so happy are get to see him soon :)
Military Girlfriend Out.

Over the last year I have had a hard time dealing with the idea that my boyfriend of four years is joining the Air Force as an officer. More recently though, I have been looking into joining the Coast Guard, as they have great careers for my educational background. I had looked into it a lot before meeting my boyfriend, but had given up the idea because nobody thought that I could do it, until I met him. My boyfriend and I want to get married, but do you know of things like this ever working out? Could a marriage work between a Coastie and an Airman? Do you have any advice on how we could have a good marriage and have our dreams? 

Response from Military Girlfriend:

It is possible for you two to be together, but it is going to be very hard for the two of you. I would say that before you get married you should decide if you are going to go into the Coast Guard, and if you are you should find out where you are going to be stationed.  Once you know about where you are going to be it will be easier for the two of you to look at your situation and decide whether or not you should get married.

As far as advice for a happy marriage goes I am not married yet, but I have always believed that the best way to handle things is through honest communication. I know that sounds cheesy, but it is what has gotten us through some hard times.

Military Girlfriend Out.

I just wanna say thank you, you’re such an inspiration to all of us out there. It’s really hard to find someone who can empathize with me. You give me hope.

Response from Military Girlfriend:

Thank you for your support. I really appreciate it and I will always be here.

Military Girlfriend Out.