When my guy joined the military it was one of the hardest things I had ever had to deal with, and I wish that someone had told be about what I was getting myself into when he left. So, to help those who are going to be in the same situation that I am in I decided to start this blog telling people about what it's like to be in this type of relationship. I will post new advice every wednesday (I want to make sure that this blog lasts a long time) and I am open to quesitons and suggestions just message me and I'll answer you within 24 hours. Good luck. Military Girlfriend Out.
Military Girlfriend
Anonymous asked: Sorry, this may be long. I love your blog even though I’m not a military girlfriend—yet. Finger’s crossed :) Anyway, back in like November I went on a blind date with this guy who would later become a Marine, and even though nothing romantic came of it then, we became friends on Facebook and we would spend hours messaging each other back and forth, talking about things we couldn’t talk about with others. When he came back from boot camp, we hung out some more and got a little closer. (1)
Continuation of question:
He recently left for his second round of training. He’ll be back in a couple of months, but I was curious what happens next. After he’s done with his training, how long will he be home for? When he leaves, how long will he be gone? Will we be able to keep in touch through anything other than a letter here or there? Would it be hard to maybe try and start a relationship? Any input would be greatly appreciated!
Military Girlfriend Response:
It really depends on what his MOS is and what unit he is in in order to know how long he will be home as well as when he will leave. He should know as soon as he leaves training how long he will be able to be home as well as how long he will be gone.
If he is deployed you may not be able to send letters if they are in a dangerous area, but if he is in the states you should be able to call and text and skype.
It is always hard to be in a long distance relationship and it is even harder to start one that way, but it does not make it impossible. If both of you are willing to put in the time to talk to each other as well as being okay with not being able to be with each other as much it won’t be overly difficult for you.
Here if you have any more questions.
Military Girlfriend Out.
foxtrotfilm asked: You give me hope that a relationship in the military can last. Thank you. I love my girl so much and don't want to lose her because of my career choice.
Thanks so much for your support! I’m glad that I can help and if you have any questions let me know :)
Military Girlfriend Out.
aequo--animo asked: Just wanted to add to the gf that wrote you asking about lack of response in her bf's letters. You are exactly right. You have VERY LITTLE time to write in bootcamp. Writing friends meant losing sleep for me. Your only free time is at night after lights out BUT getting letters was so uplifting & positive. To the gf whose bf doesn't have much to say back- as long as he's saying I love you and miss you, keep writing. It means the world when you're in that crappy environment and you get a letter.
Thanks so much for this :) I hope she reads this and feels so much more secure.
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: My boyfriend recently left for basic training at Fort Jackson almost 2 weeks ago.. I was actually able to text/talk to him on the phone a little throughout last week because he was at processing and didnt ship to actual basic until last saturday. do you have any idea when I can expect his first letter? i know he's only been at actual boot camp for about a week but i'm just so anxious to hear from him!
It should be about halfway through the first week to the second week. When my guy was gone I usually got one letter per week.
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: There is no way the military can tell you who you can and cannot date, am I right?
Well if you are dating someone in the same company or group as you they can make you break it up. Also if you are dating someone on base they may give you a certain amount of time to marry them and if you don’t there will be consequences.
But other than that, no they can’t.
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: My boyfriend is in bootcamp right now. I send him 12 pages of letters (front and back) and all i ever get is i miss you and i love you in the letters he sends me. His letters are unbelievably short. I pour my heart into these letters and I'm not getting much back. I know he loves me but do you think it will last? And I'm definitely in love with him. He comes back on July 19th.
I think you’re relationship is fine. In basic they don’t have very much time to write (Usually a half and hour to an hour per week) so I’m sure that he is just running out of time before they are very long. I know that it’s hard to write long letters and not get much left, but it may not be him.
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: I think you should reblog more military pictures for this account. Maybe quotes, relationship pictures, it's just a thought.
I have a lot of quotes and pictures that I have posted. In face I post one once a week, but I answer questions every chance I can :) It takes a while to find the quotes and make them into a picture or to find a picture.
Look for a new quote on Wednesdays :)
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: My guys a reservist and I take it yours is active? Whats the difference? If there a different contract with it? I don't really know much.
I answered this a while back and it took a while so here is a copy of what I told someone else a bit ago. I would retype it, but I don’t want to forget anything:
The reserves are less likely to be deployed than actives, but the MOS’ are the same. They are taught the same things and go to the same trainings, the reserves are just more to make sure that there are always soldiers available.
Active military are usually stationed somewhere around the country whereas reserves will stay in whatever state they enlist in.
Reserves can be deployed if they want or if they are needed, but the chances of them going is much smaller than active.
If by reserve you mean something like the national guard, they are not considered reserves. They are considered the active guard. They are sorta a hybrid of the two. They will be deployed as much as the active military, but they will be based at home instead of somewhere within the country.
So to sum up: Active are most likely going to be deployed, reserves stay where they sign up unless they want to be deployed or their MOS is needed, and active guard can be deployed, but all of them receive the same amount and type of training they receive.
Military Girlfriend Out.
