When my guy joined the military it was one of the hardest things I had ever had to deal with, and I wish that someone had told be about what I was getting myself into when he left. So, to help those who are going to be in the same situation that I am in I decided to start this blog telling people about what it's like to be in this type of relationship. I will post new advice every wednesday (I want to make sure that this blog lasts a long time) and I am open to quesitons and suggestions just message me and I'll answer you within 24 hours. Good luck. Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: For national guards when they have free time at basic are they aloud to use their phones? Do they even have their phones with them?
It really just depends on who’s in charge of them, but that is usually not the case. They usually get their phones for a small amount of time on Sundays and that’s pretty much it.
When they get to basic they lock all of their phones away and free time can happen at any moment, so they aren’t going to give them out all of the time.
In very rare cases some sergeants have been known to give them their phones all the time, but I would expect to just get about one call a week.
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: Would you consider a girl who's boyfriend is in the Army Reserves to be a military girlfriend? I know that the Reserves only get them one weekend a month and a few weeks in the summer for annual training. It's definitely not as severe as the girls who have to deal with their boyfriends and husbands being gone for months at a time.
Oh most definitely you are a military girlfriend. Just because he is in the Reserves doesn’t mean that he wont go through basic training and be deployed at some point. We are in this regardless of severity, so you shouldn’t be treated any other way.
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: Hi, my boyfriend is at basic right now for the National Guard and he's almost done with his first week. Do you have any idea when he can write? Or if he can the first week or whatever?
He should be able to write soon in fact it is very possible he has written to you and it hasn’t gotten there yet. I didn’t receive my first letter from my guy until the second week of training. After that we each received one a week unless we sent more than that.
Also, be aware that sometimes sergeants don’t let them write letters for punishment, and their only real personal time is for about a half an hour on Sundays. This time is set aside so people who are religious can practice their religion, but you can also spend it writing letters if you wish.
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: Ahhhh he surprised me today... today is my birthday and i didn't know he was home everyone knew but me its the best birthday present i could ever ask for!(:
Yay! I’m so happy that he was able to surprise you like that :) Happy Birthday and enjoy yourself with him.
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: We're still young. I'm just saying if I wait through all his training and service, I just better get a rock on my finger at the end of the day. It'll probably be a couple years down the road, but I'm just saying. Is that a bitchy thing to say?
Ha ha no I wouldn’t call you bitchy for saying that. I think most girls feel the same way when they get into this type of relationship, and their guys are probably aware of this expectation.
Just be patient with him when it comes to marriage. If he doesn’t do anything as soon as he gets done with training, don’t take this as he is never going to ask you. He will ask you when the time is right, and it will be a moment you will remember for the rest of your life.
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: He leaves for boot camp in 4 days and I'm really not handling it well. I cry all the time thinking about how in 4 short days, I won't see him again for 13 weeks. I don't know, this is just really REALLY hard.
You can do this. I know that it is going to be hard, but spend those last four days with your guy and make them days that both of you will remember when he is gone. These are the memories that are going to help you through things that he won’t be there to help you with. These are the constant reminders of all the good things of your relationship that will lead you towards a brighter future with him.
He picked you because he wants to go through hell and back with you. You are the one thing he is going to think about every day while he is gone and you will be his goal in the end. He will come home to you and I promise you the wait is worth more than anything else in this world.
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: My guy and I have had this relationship a year before he enlisted in the military. We made the decision to continue the relationship while he is in the military as a test run because we didn't know how it would go. I love him so much, but I don't think this is my lifestyle. I can't adjust to it.. from being able to see him everyday and talk to him everyday into not seeing/talking to him for months and years. I don't know how to bring this up. We can't talk now and he's not home.
I would like to start off by saying that there is nothing wrong with you wanting to get out of this type of relationship. It is a very stressful and difficult thing to do and I am happy you tried to make it work before you got to this point. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you deciding that this life is not for you.
If it were me I would probably start of by telling him how much I cared about him and how proud of him, but I don’t think I am ready for a relationship like this. Its going to hurt him regardless of what you say, but I feel like the more honest you are with him the better the outcome will be.
He needs to know that it is the distance and lack of contact that is the problem, and not him. There never is a right time to bring up something like this, but you will know when to bring it up when the time is right.
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: What's the longest you and your guy have been away from each other without talking?
4 long months.
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: Do soldiers in the Army Guard get deployed overseas (to war zones like Afghanistan) often? Right now he's in BCT, but before this relationship gets serious I want to know what I could possibly be getting myself into.
They get deployed to war zones just as much as other branches. So at least once maybe more.
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: Sex after he comes back is a must right? I don't think I'll be able to contain myself.
Ha ha I wouldn’t call it a must, but it sure is something that is on a list of priorities.
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: So my guy had been in tech training for 3 weeks now! I thought that once he would be done basic everything would be fine because I would have him back! But he's alwys so busy!! And I don't want to make it sound like I want his full attention 24/7 but sometimes it just gets frustrating! I love him so much! And we will get through this but I'm just missing the times we had before he left!
Ha ha yeah I’ve been there. One thing that always helped us was to set a day aside for just the two of us. We would plan it in advance, save up some money, and go out just the two of us to reconnect. We only did this every so often, but those days where we did it made everything else so much better.
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: So my boyfriend of almost 3 months will be leaving for boot camp in September I want to have sex with him before he leaves and I am a virgin and he is not and I don't know how to bring it up to him and since he is leaving I don't want to have sex and have it be only about sex I want this as a fond memory for the both of us and I just need some advice on if it would affect him on if I asked and how I should ask I love him so much and I just want this moment with him
Maybe tell him what you just told me, and bring it up by saying something about how you want his time before he leaves to be special. I know that it can be awkward to bring it up, but when the moment is right you can tell him or hell just let the moment sweep you away.
Also I know this sounds weird, but definitely be safe when you do this. Sometimes when you are scared at what might happen you want to do anything to make sure that you have a guarantee that you two will be together forever, but that is not the right way to do things. Be safe in what you do so you two can be together under the right circumstances.
After all, the last thing you want is regret in a relationship.
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: Does basic training graduation always fall on weekends? Or do they have graduation during the week too?
It is usually on a weekend, I think the only reason the wouldn’t do it on the weekend is if something happened on base that would cause the graduation to be delayed.
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: How long have you and your boyfriend been dating and what branch is he is? How often to you get to talk to him and see him?
My guy and I have been dating for 3 years and he signed into the Army National Guard two weeks after we started dating. He is working nights right now and since I work days I won’t see him for the next two months unless I take time off of work.
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: It seems like every young relationship is with people in the military. I know more military couples that are around the age 18 than people not in the military. Do you think the military has anything to do with people getting married young?
I think that the benefits are strong enough for people to be tempted with getting married before they truly know that person that they are in a relationship with. Although I know that this is not always the reason that people do.
I think that there is a strong correlation between people joining the military when they are 18 and already in a relationship and young military marriages. People tend to become scared at the sign of being apart and a quick fix to that is to get married to them so they can live on base with them.
I mean this in absolutely no offense to anyone who is young and married to someone in the military. I am 20 years old and I have a very strong feeling that I will be engaged before the year is over. The money have been tempting to us when times have gotten hard, but we have always wanted to make sure that we are getting married for the right reasons, and not the money.
Military Girlfriend Out.
