When my guy joined the military it was one of the hardest things I had ever had to deal with, and I wish that someone had told be about what I was getting myself into when he left. So, to help those who are going to be in the same situation that I am in I decided to start this blog telling people about what it's like to be in this type of relationship. I will post new advice every wednesday (I want to make sure that this blog lasts a long time) and I am open to quesitons and suggestions just message me and I'll answer you within 24 hours. Good luck. Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: the hardest part for me right now is i'm scared.. i'm scared he wont make it i'm scared he will die.. he is in the marines the first ones to fight and honestly i'm scared for him and i don't want him to die he is the best thing that ever happen to me and i love him with all my heart
I know that this is a huge worry for a lot of you, but you can’t let this consume your life. People day every day for different reasons, and there is no point in worrying about it.
I’m going to tell you guys a story that my guy told me that always helps me keep things into perspective. There is a sergeant that my guy works with who has been deployed multiple times. After his second deployment a group of guys that he deployed with went to a diner to get something to eat. While they were there a man came in and shot all three of them, killing every single one. It is not the deployment that brings death, its people who want to hurt others that does.
When he is gone you cannot think that he isn’t going to come home. It is not good for you to think about it is not fair to him.
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: Your post about the hardest thing in a military relationship made me realize that we do have people that should be there for us all the time and care for us so much, but they really aren't. It hurts to think about when one puts it that way.
I know it does, but honestly the only reason I posted it was because someone asked me about it.
Just because it is the hardest part to me doesn’t mean that it is impossible to deal with. I take everything one step at a time and wait until we are back together again to handle the things I desperately need him for.
It takes a while, but you learn to handle things.
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: Do you have any songs that helps you get through all this?
When I am feeling down I listen to a lot of things:
- Any song from Imagine Dragons
- Dear God by Avenged Sevenfold (its our song)
- 18 Days by Saving Abel
- We believe by Good Charlotte
- When can I see you again by Owl City
Anonymous asked: Hardest part of being in a military relationship?
For me it would have to be not being their for him when he is down and not having him here for me when I am. Instead of just texting him or waiting until he gets home, I have to handle things on my own. Its nice having someone their for you when you need them, and when they aren’t it just makes things that much harder.
I has made me a much stronger person though. I am able to handle things without needing that support, but when he is there to give it it is that much easier for me.
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: For national guards when they have free time at basic are they aloud to use their phones? Do they even have their phones with them?
It really just depends on who’s in charge of them, but that is usually not the case. They usually get their phones for a small amount of time on Sundays and that’s pretty much it.
When they get to basic they lock all of their phones away and free time can happen at any moment, so they aren’t going to give them out all of the time.
In very rare cases some sergeants have been known to give them their phones all the time, but I would expect to just get about one call a week.
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: Would you consider a girl who's boyfriend is in the Army Reserves to be a military girlfriend? I know that the Reserves only get them one weekend a month and a few weeks in the summer for annual training. It's definitely not as severe as the girls who have to deal with their boyfriends and husbands being gone for months at a time.
Oh most definitely you are a military girlfriend. Just because he is in the Reserves doesn’t mean that he wont go through basic training and be deployed at some point. We are in this regardless of severity, so you shouldn’t be treated any other way.
Military Girlfriend Out.
Ha ha I go to school in Boise, but I live in Kuna :)
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: Hi, my boyfriend is at basic right now for the National Guard and he's almost done with his first week. Do you have any idea when he can write? Or if he can the first week or whatever?
He should be able to write soon in fact it is very possible he has written to you and it hasn’t gotten there yet. I didn’t receive my first letter from my guy until the second week of training. After that we each received one a week unless we sent more than that.
Also, be aware that sometimes sergeants don’t let them write letters for punishment, and their only real personal time is for about a half an hour on Sundays. This time is set aside so people who are religious can practice their religion, but you can also spend it writing letters if you wish.
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: What school do you go to?
I attend Boise State University in Boise Idaho.
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: Ahhhh he surprised me today... today is my birthday and i didn't know he was home everyone knew but me its the best birthday present i could ever ask for!(:
Yay! I’m so happy that he was able to surprise you like that :) Happy Birthday and enjoy yourself with him.
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: We're still young. I'm just saying if I wait through all his training and service, I just better get a rock on my finger at the end of the day. It'll probably be a couple years down the road, but I'm just saying. Is that a bitchy thing to say?
Ha ha no I wouldn’t call you bitchy for saying that. I think most girls feel the same way when they get into this type of relationship, and their guys are probably aware of this expectation.
Just be patient with him when it comes to marriage. If he doesn’t do anything as soon as he gets done with training, don’t take this as he is never going to ask you. He will ask you when the time is right, and it will be a moment you will remember for the rest of your life.
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: He leaves for boot camp in 4 days and I'm really not handling it well. I cry all the time thinking about how in 4 short days, I won't see him again for 13 weeks. I don't know, this is just really REALLY hard.
You can do this. I know that it is going to be hard, but spend those last four days with your guy and make them days that both of you will remember when he is gone. These are the memories that are going to help you through things that he won’t be there to help you with. These are the constant reminders of all the good things of your relationship that will lead you towards a brighter future with him.
He picked you because he wants to go through hell and back with you. You are the one thing he is going to think about every day while he is gone and you will be his goal in the end. He will come home to you and I promise you the wait is worth more than anything else in this world.
Military Girlfriend Out.
Anonymous asked: My guy and I have had this relationship a year before he enlisted in the military. We made the decision to continue the relationship while he is in the military as a test run because we didn't know how it would go. I love him so much, but I don't think this is my lifestyle. I can't adjust to it.. from being able to see him everyday and talk to him everyday into not seeing/talking to him for months and years. I don't know how to bring this up. We can't talk now and he's not home.
I would like to start off by saying that there is nothing wrong with you wanting to get out of this type of relationship. It is a very stressful and difficult thing to do and I am happy you tried to make it work before you got to this point. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you deciding that this life is not for you.
If it were me I would probably start of by telling him how much I cared about him and how proud of him, but I don’t think I am ready for a relationship like this. Its going to hurt him regardless of what you say, but I feel like the more honest you are with him the better the outcome will be.
He needs to know that it is the distance and lack of contact that is the problem, and not him. There never is a right time to bring up something like this, but you will know when to bring it up when the time is right.
Military Girlfriend Out.
