January 2012
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If he plays video games
Video games are one of the things that most guys have in common, and when they get a chance to play them, they will. They will want to play them so much that they may by and XBox 360 or Wii when they are at A.I.T.. Now this is okay as long as they do not spend all of their money on video games, and end up with no money when they come back home.
It is very possible for you to be able to spend time...
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Homework
When your guy is in A.I.T. and he has an MOS that requires tests you better be prepared for him to be doing some homework in his spare time. You need to be understanding when it comes around because if he doesn’t study he may not pass his tests, which will result him in being gone even longer.
My guy used to do homework while he was talking to me on the phone, and when he did things got...
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Things to do on New Years Eve.
I know that this time has passed, but New Years is one of the few opportunities that you may have to see him. My guy and I have spent two New Years nights together and each one has been equally memorable because of the little time we had together.
The relaxed approach:
Just you and him alone at home. No kissing until New Years starting at around ten or eleven. It is such a tease and is so much...
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Lonely nights
This is one of the hardest things that you will ever have to deal with. Unfortunately it may never be one hundred percent okay with it. Here are some things that have helped me in the past, but to be honest you will never be fully okay with you being alone. So try some of these each night and after a while you may feel a little better about being alone.
Wearing his jacket when I go to bed.
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“Im glad I have an amazing girl that will stand by my side even though im so far...”
– My guy.
I hope that your guy says something like this to you. It will make you feel pretty special if he does.
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Facebook
Alright girls here is something that seems innocent enough, but can really annoy those around you as well as make you lose some friends if you are not careful enough.
Facebook is a great way to talk to people and tell them all about what’s going on in your life, but they really don’t need to see a post from you once a week talking about how much you miss your guy. They know that you...
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Talking about him
When your guy has been gone for a while you start to wish that someone would talk to you about him so you could feel closer to him in some small way. The problem with that is there are some things you should not mention to other people, especially in a public setting.
Do tell them:
What branch of the military he is in.
Why he joined.
His MOS.
Where he is training.
Don’t tell them:
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Ways to get along with his mom.
Getting along with your guy’s mom can be really hard sometimes so here’s a list of things you can do in order to get along with her while he is gone. After all she is missing him just as much as you are, and if you are going to be with him forever you may as well get in good with her now.
Go to dinner and a movie.
Go to a play.
Invite her to dinner at your house.
Invite her over to...
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Talking to him with listeners
When your guy is in training after basic they are sometimes put in a barracks with a whole bunch of other guys, and other times they are put in dorm rooms that they share with one other person. Either way, when you are talking to your guy on the phone he won’t be able to say all of the things he wants to because there is someone listening in.
Keep this in mind when you are talking to him....
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about the basic
when your bf was in basic and all ? he went to fort beginning ?
and i red all all of your post but not trying to get in your business but did he give you his debt card or credit cards? is it a good idea?
My guy was in basic last summer and he went to Fort Sill Oklahoma, but most of the Army bases are run the same way.
As far as the financial situation he did not give me any of his...
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Nerves
When you get to the point where you are going to see him again, whether that is at his graduation from basic or when it’s all over, you will get nervous to see him. Certain questions will pop into your mind like:
Does he still love me?
Has he changed a lot?
Does he look different?
Will he still want me?
Will he get tired of me?
He will be just as nervous as you, but he may not show it...
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Uniformed and in public.
So the military has certain rules for what your guy can do while he is in uniform. Here’s a list of some of the things that he has to deal with:
He can’t walk and use his phone at the same time (texting and talking).
He can hug someone for no longer than 5 seconds.
When with his spouse or significant other he can only link arms with her. Not kiss or hold hands.
If you are with him...
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When someone tries to get you to cheat.
You know how I said that there was a point where your guy has to make the decision on whether or not to stay with you? Well now it’s time to talk about the time where you may have to choose. Now I know you feel like you are strong enough to say no, but when your guy has been gone long enough…you start to get curious.
Here are some examples of how it could happen:
You are studying...
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The chance of failure
I know you all know that everything is going to be fine and that he is going to succeed in both basic and any training afterwards, but you need to be aware of the fact that they may fail along the way.
Now the military may be strict, but there are chances for them to fail at some things and still be able to graduate. They just have to make sure to pass when it really counts.
My guy had problems...
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When he has to choose between you and his parents.
During the time that he is gone and he has certain opportunities to call you he also has the opportunity to call his parents. Keep in mind that you are not the only one who’s home and wanting him to come back.
You need to make sure that if his parents want to talk to him that they have that chance because if you take all that time from them, they will not like you which will cause more...
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A nice suprise.
There is one thing that you can do, if you save up your money, that he will always be greatful for. Go to his graduation from basic training. This will be the last time you see him for a while and even though it’s a short couple of days it is well worth the trip.
Want to make it even more memorable? Don’t tell him you’re coming. I know that sounds hard to manage, but with help...
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The competition
Here’s something that you may not expect to happen to your guy. When he is first in basic, and most of the guys are in a relationship, a competition will start between all of them.
The competition when most of the guys try to prove how great they are by showing pictures of their girlfriend/wife to everyone else. Now girls this is important to be aware of because if you give him a sexy...
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What they are told
I’m sure you have all seen the movies where the drill sergeant yells at all the guys and says, “we are going to make men out of you,” but they say more than just that to your guy. They will tell him what they expect of him as a soldier, a person, and even how they expect relationships to go. Now I’m sure you know all about what they want as a soldier and a person so...
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How you may feel in certain instances.
This is a list of things that have made me feel certain ways because they remind me of my guy:
Happy:
His picture
Anything that he gives you that once was his
Letters
When someone asks about him
Lonely
Chick flix
Date nights
Kissing couples
Hearing someone say “I love you”
Proud
When someone asks what my boyfriend does
When older friends join the military and they...
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When you start to give up.
Here comes some news that most of you will think will never happen to you, but I’m telling you right now it will. There will be a moment when you are so lonley and missing him so much that you will quesiton yourself on whether or not you can make it through all this.
You will decide that he is too good for you, and that he would be much better and happier if he was with someone else....
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When without contact.
Right now my guy is at a camp at the end of his A.I.T that simulates what it would be like for him in Iraq if he was ever deployed. As a result that means that we have not had any contact with each other for a while.
In basic we could write letters and maybe talk once a week, and before this we could text and talk in the evenings. Now… I wait.
You too will have times like I am right now....
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Long distance fights.
Prepare yourself for this. It is one of the toughest fights you will ever have with someone. From my experiences these fights usually start when both of you are having a bad day so you aren’t very patient with each other.
How it can start:
One of you says something that the other takes the wrong way.
One of you doesn’t really listen to the other.
Something happens to one of you.
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When you miss him
There will be days when you don’t know what to do with yourself. Here is a list of things I’ve done that have helped me pass the time and have improved my mood.
Write to him: Tell him about your day and the things that have been bothering you. You don’t have to ever show it or mail it to him, but it will make you feel better.
Play video games: I’m a girl and I must admit...
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The best thing you can give him.
When he leaves there are not many personal items he can take with him, but there is one item in particular that you really should give him. That item is a wallet sized picture of yourself. Not a racy one, but one of you that will make him smile.
When my guy was in basic he told me that the only thing that would get him through the day was a picture of me that he would put under his pillow every...
Want me to talk about something specific? Ask me.
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Things to remember.
During the time that your guy is gone you tend to get sad and lonely, but there are somethings can cheer you up and you may not always think about.
He will come back: Every deployment is temporary, whether that is to Iraq or basic training.
He misses/loves you: You keep him going when he needs something to look forward to, and he wants to be with you just as much as you want to be with him.
He...
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When someone says, "He's probably cheating on...
Here’s a big warning for you people who are going to go through your guy leaving for basic and any further training. Do not expect everyone to support your relationship. In my experience I have had many people (including my best friend) tell me that my quy was probably cheating on me so I might as well end the relationship before it became public and humiliated me even more.
When this...
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If your guy has a sense of humor.
If you thought that the military would kill your guys sense of humor think again. The only major change in it is there will be a lot more cuss words, and sarcasm. Theses guys have been putting up with a lot without being able to say a single word so they may take it out on you. Then best thing to do is to smile and laugh, they mean the best after all.
My guy likes to send me funny pictures to...
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The worry of change.
One of the biggest worries that my guy and I had when he left for basic training was that the two of us would change and become different people. He was going to become a well-oiled military machine and I was starting college, and you know change does happen, but not in the ways that most people think.
The Good Change:
Disipline: My guy wanted to change in the manner of having more disipline in...
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What they won't tell you.
Here is a list of some of the things that you don’t really hear about when your guy first signs into the military:
You will get lonely: There will be times where you want to have a date night or maybe just hang out with your guy, but he won’t be there. Just talk to your friends and family and arrange things to do in the mean time. Immerse youself in work or school in order to get your...
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Advice for the day he leaves
Help him pack: Show him that you are going to help him get ready for this change in his life, and that you support him.
If you have any questions ask them: You won’t have time to ask them while he’s gone and it will make it easier on you if you know more about what he is going to go through.
Be yourself: Don’t try to hide your feelings because that’s not what he wants....
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Dog-tags
The greatest responsibility someone in my situation can have is to be given the love of their life’s dog-tags. They have all the information that someone would need to take a person’s identity, as well as the presentation of being in a relationship.
The moment I put on my boyfriend’s dog-tags I realized that there was no avoiding what was in my life. Men and women in uniform...
