Anonymous asked:

I feel like I'm married to myself sometimes. My husband is gone a lot, and cause he's on subs I'm lucky to get a email a day for communication. This is our first year of marriage and he's going to be gone for at least 8 months of it, it's so frustrating being alone and making all the decisions by myself. I hate that I'm starting to question if this was the right decision, but it really feels like a one sided relationship when he's gone. What do I do?

Military Girlfriend Answer:

Maybe talk to him about how you are feeling the next chance you get to talk to him. He should know that you are feeling this way and that way you two can work out a plan as far as the decisions you make and things like that.

You two are a team in this and talking to him about this is the best way to work on this problem.

jsbrown7 asked:

Its my 21st birthday as of midnight, my first birthday we're spending together as a couple, and he's not here. I thought I'd be okay. I knew he wouldn't be here before he left for basic, and I kind of prepared myself for it. Why does it hurt so bad?

Military Girlfriend Answer:

Take all the time you need an be upset today but when it gets to the point where you are going to go out with your family or friends use them as a distraction from this.

He loves you so much and wishes he could be there to celebrate with you. You can do this.

Anonymous asked:

Did you ever find yourself attracted to other guys while your man was away??

Military Girlfriend Answer:

For me it’s kinda complicated.

Yes I find myself attracted to other guys but that is because I am a human being which makes us sexual beings who will find other people attractive. There are also attractive people in this world and seeing them isn’t something that can always be avoided.

However, I haven’t found myself in a situation where I wanted to risk it all and be with them or found them so attractive that I would act on anything.

Attraction can’t always be helped but acting on it can which is where I draw the line for myself.

Anonymous asked:

I miss him.

Military Girlfriend Answer:

Missing him is a sign of love and distance can’t do anything to stop the love that you two have. You can do this :)

Anonymous asked:

Wish there was a way i could type comments onto asks but that anon who talked about not liking sex -- asexuality is definitely something they should research. It might help them figure out some stuff.

Military Girlfriend Answer:

Thank you for this input.

By the way the little chat bubble next to the reblog button underneath my response allows you to respond to the persons ask :) You can’t be anonymous but it is there for you to add any input you need. Also I just checked and the way Tumblr has things set up you can only use that button if you’ve been following the blog you saw the ask on for at least two weeks.

Anonymous asked:

So, I'm wondering, since you're great at giving all of us advice, where do you turn when you're feeling down in the dumps?

Military Girlfriend Answer:

I have a couple of people that I have met on here that I talk to and I have my mom and sister as support around here. A lot of the time though when I have problems I kinda just keep them to myself. I may not seem like it on this blog but I’m a pretty private person when it comes to problems I’m having.

Anonymous asked:

I don't like sex, never did. My SO and I have done it before a few times but I don't enjoy it. He is usually understanding about it so we don't do it a lot. Well he's been gone for awhile and I am worried when he gets back he will want to have sex. That seems like what you are suppose to do when they come home. I feel bad if I say no but at the same time I don't want to do it. What should I do?

Military Girlfriend Answer:

I think that before he comes home you should talk to him about how you are feeling. You two are a couple and as such you should talk about things like this before you get into a situation where one of you is hurt or unhappy. The best way to handle an issue like this is to face it head on.

guitarxgirl asked:

I finished my Army OneSource class. It's like no big deal but as stupid as it sounds I feel like I understand the Army a little better now and not as lost and close minded. I hope it helps me be more understanding and supportive of my guy and helps me in the long run with him being in the Army. Now to fix the printer so I can print out my certificate!

Military Girlfriend Answer:

Sometimes knowledge really is power :) Congrats by the way.

mom-official asked:

Hi! My boyfriend left for basic on the 7th (of July) and we have a baby who only just turned a month old yesterday, plus I just got a job, and I'm starting college in the fall. I really wasn't missing him very badly until last night and I finally got his mailing address today but it was in a random text from him using a random number instead of the "informative letter" that I was expecting? Any thoughts?

Military Girlfriend Answer:

They don’t really do the informative letter thing any more. Some bases like to but now with all the technology in the world the let them make a quick call or text to a loved one to let them know their address and anything else. There isn’t really a need for the letter anymore I guess.

Anonymous asked:

Should I give up on waiting for a letter? It's week 4 day 1 for my SO in boot camp. He's in GL... This sucks I haven't heard from him at all... I try not to take it personally if I don't get a phone call but a simple letter would do with me :( especially since the average time for the first letter is 2-3 weeks and it's week 4 now idk what to think. Is this his way I'm telling me he doesn't wanna talk to me?

Military Girlfriend Answer:

I think that in situations like this it is important to keep in mind that although the expectation is that you can get letters it doesn’t mean that they are always going to be allowed to send them to you. Some drill sergeants don’t allow letters to be sent and sometimes they just don’t have time to write them while they are there.

Also keep in mind that although the average time for letters is 2-3 weeks that is an average not a guarantee. Sometimes they come earlier and sometimes they come later.

In the end it is completely up to do you to decide if you should give up or not. I don’t know your relationship like you do so I can’t truly say if he will write or not.

Anonymous asked:

My best friend (who is in basic) left his girlfriend behind and she thinks we're friends. She keeps writing me telling me how much she misses him and how much she keeps crying and stuff...I don't know what to say to her anymore. The first few times I gave her solid advice and suggestions but now she just wants to rant...which is fine until she starts yelling at me that I don't respond or that I don't respond how she likes. Now I'm ranting. Okay, thanks. ):

Military Girlfriend Answer:

Have you tried talking to her about why you don’t respond back right away and that she needs to understand that although you are there for her you have things you need to do yourself.

Sometimes reminding people that you are a person and have things going on in your life too can really help.

Anonymous asked:

Hi, awhile ago I wrote my BF a letter since he is away. I miss him a lot and I'm worried that maybe my letter sounded too clingy? His letter was really cute and sweet and I don't want him to worry about me losing interest while he's away and I don't want him to lose interest either of course so I sent him a really long letter as I said I would and I wrote about how much I miss him and how I'm keeping on doing usual stuff but I feel incomplete , I'm just worried about how it will come across.

Military Girlfriend Answer:

I think that he is going to love your letter and isn’t going to find you clingy at all :) He misses  you just as much and he may have been worried about the same thing with his letter. He knows that you have the best intentions and is probably very excited to be receiving letters from you :)

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Anonymous asked:

I was talking to this guy for a couple months before he left for training. We hung out a lot & were intimate. We never talked about what we are before he left. This guy who i've been friends with for a while wants to hook up. I had a thing for him for a while, but I like the first guy much more. The thing is, I don't know what we are. I wanna ask him when he gets back in a few weeks but I'm nervous. What should I do about the guy who wants to hook up & how should I ask the first guy what we are?

Military Girlfriend Answer:

I think that this is really up to you to decide. Each of them have their merit but in the end the person you are happier with should be the one you choose.

u-valovima asked:

My SO had already been through BMT and Tech School before we started dating. so I have absolutely zero idea what I have in store for me. I know his first deployment isn't for another year but any advice on what things will be like when the time comes?

Military Girlfriend Answer:

Deployments can be really different from case to case but not being able to talk is one of the things that can be really hard on a relationship. As long as you are aware that the reason he hasn’t call is most likely because can’t and not that he doesn’t want to things can go a lot smoother :)

People have also said that the time difference can be annoying too but that is something that you can learn to adjust to :)

Keep busy while he is gone and remember its perfectly okay to cry if you feel the need :)

Anonymous asked:

Do you have plans to get married soon? Have you thought about the kind or wedding you want?

Military Girlfriend Answer:

I hope to be married soon :)

My guy and I have always talked about getting married in my parents back yard and having him wear a tuxedo instead of his uniform.

We’ve actually thought about it a lot :)